Why do you travel?

Do you know why, despite visiting so many places in the country, I keep going back to my first solo trip to Baguio? Because that was the only time I ever got to experience the place. I was all alone so I was free to roam around and walk to my heart’s content. I saw the tourist spots, had some awkward photos, did the required photo op with the St. Bernard and did the usual touristy things. I did all that and I also did so much more. I experienced Baguio and fell in love with the place.

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I have so many reasons why I travel. Most people think it’s only to see places and take pictures. I love taking photos and sharing them to everyone who cares (and doesn’t) but it is more than that.

I don’t travel just so I can post photos in instagram. I travel to learn.

The Philippines is an ideal place to travel mainly because of how diverse the experience is. You can go to so many places that speaks the same languages and yet the experience is different. We are a nation of so many cultures, languages, traditions, and beliefs. There is so much to learn.

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For me, the best travels are those where I learned the most. I fell in love with Sagada not only because, for an outdoor enthusiast, it is a haven for me but mainly because of so many things I learned. Their stories, traditions, beliefs are so different from ours and it fascinated me so much I would like to go back and stay longer.

I don’t travel so I can tell people I’ve been there. I travel because traveling opens my eyes to a world different and yet familiar to me. I travel because it broadens my perspective and gives me a deeper understanding of people and a respect for everyone’s differences.

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I travel because it gives me a lot of reason to love life. Everyone I meet in my travels taught me fascinating stories ( some, too personal I don’t understand why they’re telling me about it) and life lessons I will never forget.

The world is my classroom and everyone I meet is my teacher.

This is why I travel. What about you? Why do you travel?

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*I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors. Proofreading via mobile is a challenge for me.*

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Would You Date A Friend?

Apparently, guys dread the friendzone the same way I dread attending Math classes. The friendzone is seen like a hopeless place, a graveyard of unrequited feelings and silent desires. Being placed in the friendzone is like being sent to fight a losing battle, everyone prays for your safe return but nobody expects much. Very few survive the friendzone. Or so they say.

Personally, I would prefer to date a friend than someone who’s only a knot higher than a stranger. It’s probably just me and my trust issues but I am more receptive to guys I have known for sometime than guys who are mere acquaintances.

Here’s why:

1. If a guy is your friend, and I mean real friend who’s always there for you, they have so much more to lose by going into a relationship with you and things don’t work out. When he takes the risk and takes the step, you know it’s serious.

2. There is always that possibility that a guy is only asking you out because they are only attracted to you physically. For a guy who has already seen you at your best and worst moments, you have the assurance that it’s more than that.

3. Your guy friend genuinely cares for you. They don’t need to impress you because, being friends, you already know what they are capable of. If they give you something or do something nice, it’s not because they want to get on your good side or earn points. They do it because they really want to see you happy.

4. Having been friends for sometime, it will be easier for the two of you to talk. Considering the fact that you are friends, one on one converstations won’t be a torture. You already have an idea what to talk about and what not to talk about. You know each other’s likes and dislikes and that is already a hell of a start.

5. Going into an actual relationship would of course entail a different kind of adjustment but you are still at least two steps ahead in the adjustment department.

And these are just five of the many benefits of dating a friend. There will be awkwardness but there is also trust and security. Well, there are disadvantages of course but I guess that avenue has already been thoroughly explored, so why not consider this one?

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*I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors. Proofreading via mobile is a challenge for me.*

Dear Future Boyfriend,

I can’t count the number of times people told me that I “should get a boyfriend” or that I “should get married”. So I’m sure that your presence in my life is a relief. At least to everyone who always feared that I would end up an old maid like so many in our family. As for me, I am happy (I hope).

Please don’t think that I am only with you because of this. I do not know who you are yet but let me assure you that if I am with you then it will not be because of something so shallow. So chill dude!

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No, I do not know who this baby is but you have to admit, this baby is cute.

However, I am not sure how you would feel if I tell you that I don’t need you. That’s right! I said I don’t need you. But before you let your ego get the best of you, allow me to explain.

There will only be three reasons why I am with you: I love you, I want you and I chose you. Need is not a part of it.

I always believe that being with someone only because you need them is shallow and ridiculous. I like to think of myself as a more matured person than that. I like to think that I am with you because I want to and because I chose to.

To say that “I need you” implies that I am only with you because I have to but given an option I would prefer to be with someone else. At least this is how I understand it.

If I am with you now, then it means I chose you and you alone. It means you are not an option but the only answer to the question.

I always believe that it is better to be wanted than needed. If you are only needed, you can be discarded when your usefulness has run its course. The person may not really want you but only chose to be with you because you serve a purpose. I do not like that. I am with you because I want to be with you. There are no conditions.

I am here out of my own free will. This is my choice, not my friends nor my family. You are my choice. You are not a product of someone else’s idea of an ideal man. You are my ideal man.

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Love not war

Your presence in my life is not subject to whether or not you can give me expensive gifts. I assure you, I do not require such. It does, however, depend on whether or not you treat me well.

You see, I grew up loved and taken cared of. Love is not something I have to look for because I have always been loved. So, I guess it is only normal that I ask that you love me at least as much as you can possibly do. I am not going to ask you to love me as much as my family because that would be impossible. My family is my family and their love is of a different brand. Let’s not try to compete with that.

I also ask that you respect me. There are some lines I will never cross and some things I will never compromise. Respect that and we may just survive.

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True Love Waits.

Please also understand that choosing to be with you may have been one of the hardest decisions I have ever made in my life. I love my freedom and giving up even a piece of it is a big deal to me.

Let’s put it this way, the reason why I don’t have a boyfriend at 26 is because I can’t imagine giving up my freedom. So being with you must have cost me days and nights of analyzing and weighing pros and cons of this. So please don’t ever think that you can just take me for granted or cheat on me easily. Remember that I have no problems being alone. I can leave you even if it would be one of the hardest things I have to do.

I also have some few reminders for you, just in case I haven’t told you yet.

1. It doesn’t matter how much I love you, you cannot have my password.

2. There is such a thing as privacy. No, it doesn’t mean I am hiding something. I respect yours, you respect mine.

3. If the time will come when you no longer want me, please don’t cheat. Be honest. Cheat on me and I will break you. Or my friends and family will. Your choice.

4. There is no such thing as monthsary. Puh-lease!

I know this not the most romantic thing anyone can read in their lifetime. I am not the most romantic person in the world and writing a love letter is not really my strongest suit. Well, this is not a love letter. It’s more like a manifesto.

Whoever you are, wherever you’re from, someday we will meet and you will have to read this. I really don’t know what else to tell you. I guess if you have any feedbacks, feel free to see me or email or text or whatever. I’m just here.

Xoxo,
Your Future Girlfriend

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*I apologize for any spelling or grammatical errors. Proofreading via mobile is a challenge for me.*