What advice would you give yourself (if you can)?

If I am given the power to travel back in time and smack myself in the head, I’d give myself three pieces of advice.

1. Invest. Get a mutual fund or something. I spent my first three working years in Bacolod city. The cost of living is relatively low compared to Cebu. The pay is lower in amount but I am earning more considering that I get to keep about 50-70% of my pay. I was able to save part of it but spent it all when I moved to Cebu city. Most of the time though, I’d spend all my money on things I don’t actually need so there are times when I’d be left with almost nothing. Nobody taught me that I don’t need millions to invest. If I did invest my money, I could be living comfortably now. Probably.

2. Learn to say yes. My life would be so different if I said yes to some things. I probably wouldn’t be where I am now, doing what I am doing. There’s a part of me that wants to hit myself in the head but there’s a part of me that’s contented. It is what it is. The pieces have fallen. I have moved on. 😂💔

3. Keep in touch. I am very bad at keeping in touch with people although I don’t really forget people who became a part of my life. I do remember them, all the time in fact. I do miss them. I do want to reach out to them. I’m just really bad at it. It takes me weeks or months to respond to messages because I have to think about it first. I have to be mentally and emotionally ready to respond. I always think they might be busy or they probably don’t remember me anymore and i don’t really want to bother them. Sometimes, by the time I’m ready, it’s too late. 

I would be a hypocrite if I say that I have lived a life with no regrets. There were certainly things that I could have done better and would if I could turn back time. I don’t always make the most intelligent decisions in life and my actions don’t always result into what I hope it would result into but I have learned from them. I just wish I had known back then the things that I know now. 


Musings of an adult

When you’re a kid the world will try to tell you so many things to prepare you for this so-call adult life but sometimes, the world has a way of leaving out the juiciest details of it whether that is by accident or intentional, your guess is as good as mine.

But I guess it doesn’t matter how much you prepare because there are just some things that nothing and no one can prepare you for. You can delude yourself into believing that you are ready but when you are an adult and you are faced with real adult problems, you realize your life was so much better when you were a kid. But there’s no turning back.

For instance, they don’t really tell you how, as you grow older you will lose more and more people you’ve learned to love. They will not tell you how painful it is bury a friend, a family member, a pet. They will not tell you about the incapacitating pain a heartbreak can give you. They will not tell you how crazy the world is. Probably because they know that if they tell you, you wouldn’t want to grow up.

They will tell you the sweetness of a first kiss, but that’s something you just got to experience firsthand. They tell you about being successful and following your dreams like it’s the easiest thing to do. They don’t tell you how difficult and challenging it is.

Yet somehow, this is how it should be. We all each have to stumble our way through life and find that place where we belong. We all have to explore and find out about things by ourselves because not everything can be taught to us. We just have to learn it and wing it as we go along.

This is just another playground with more complicated play sets. Not everyone will play nice. So many people will try to beat you to that swing. Someone gets pushed, someone cries, someone wins, someone loses and we all pay the bills. At the end of the day we all go home, clean ourselves up and get ready for another day.

Don’t be deceived though. That may sound easy but life is still a crazy bitch. Beautiful, yes. But still a crazy bitch.

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